Oh, How I Miss My Husband’s Wisdom and Advice Right Now!
I haven’t been able to post much lately because I’ve been dealing with a crisis in my family. It’s a difficult situation and I wish my husband was still here. Especially now, I miss his wisdom, advice, fierceness and ability to deal with any kind of situation and take control of it. He always knew what to do.
About a month ago, life has suddenly been turned upside down. A close family member is going through a life-changing event, one that will also affect me and my life for a very long time. It is sad and heartbreaking. Not only that, there are many very important issues and decisions that have to be dealt with. And if not taken care of properly right away, they will have terrible long-term consequences. It’s all a huge mess. We’re handling things the best we can but it’s stressful and overwhelming.
This situation got me thinking about my husband a lot again lately. How would he handle it? What would he do? What would his next step be? I always admired the way he took charge and remained calm and did what had to be done. Assessing, managing, delegating, having a precise plan and strategy. He was so good at it. He could be fierce, tough and even intimidating when he needed to be. I, on the other hand, am the complete opposite.
I suppose I’ve gotten tougher over the years, more able to assert myself and speak my mind. No longer a pushover like I used to be. But this situation calls for a toughness and fierceness that this family member and I simply do not possess.
In some weird way, remembering and thinking about my husband’s strength and the way he handled whatever life threw at him gives me a bit more strength to deal with it all. And these days my motto is “What would Roger do?” Oh, how I wish you were still here…
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