This post is a bit different because it deals with something that affects everybody, not just those who have lost someone. And while this topic isn’t really grief or loss-related, I think it’s especially important for grievers to practice self-care. (Without feeling selfish or guilty about it!)
It’s easy to forget about self-care, especially when there’s a lot going on in your life. But it’s so important to take care of yourself too and to take the time to de-stress, rebalance and recharge.
I’ve been having a really rough time the last five month or so. There have been many changes and major events happening in my life and my stress and anxiety levels have been extremely high. And it doesn’t look like it’s getting better anytime soon. I shouldn’t complain though, I’m very fortunate and I’m grateful for all I have. Nevertheless, I can feel that those past months have taken a toll on me. I’m at the point where I’m just so exhausted, mentally and physically.
I’ve neglected to take care of myself and I can feel the negative effect of that. We tend to take care of everything and everyone else but forget about ourselves. It’s tough to carve out the time for self-care, whatever that may mean for you, whether it’s reading, yoga, exercising, meditation, a nice relaxing bath, meeting up with friends or perhaps just saying ‘no’ to one more task.
Negative feelings have started popping up lately. Resentment, anger, a lack of patience and lots of frustration have reared their ugly head. I don’t feel like myself and I know things have to change.
It’s time to start focusing on myself again too. I’m of no use to anyone else if I’m not okay. I need a break. I’m burned out. So guess what? I choose NOT to return that pesky relative’s phone call today, I choose NOT to do laundry today, I choose NOT to take care of someone else’s tasks just because I have the time to do so. Sorry, people, but it’s “me time” now and my hammock is calling!
“Self-care is not selfish. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”
— Eleanor Brown