Widowhood: New Perspectives and Priorities

Widowhood has changed me in many ways. Losing someone you love is so traumatic and life-altering, it’s impossible to stay the same person you were before. It’s a journey and a metamorphosis. A long, painful quest to find your post-loss identity and to be at peace with your loss, at…

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Tackling Home Repairs and Maintenance

Whenever something breaks around the house or some kind of maintenance is required, I feel completely lost and inadequate. My late husband was always the one taking care of these things. Having to tackle home repairs and maintenance may not seem that significant compared to other challenges the widowed face,…

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Permission to Feel Happy Again

Happiness after loss. Is it possible? To be honest, during my first year of widowhood, and most of my second year, I was in such a dark place that happiness seemed to be gone forever. And even almost nine years later, I still have trouble sometimes just enjoying life the…

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Just Hold Me for a While

What I miss and need right now is a place to rest my head. I’m so tired. So frustrated. So alone. And there’s nobody to comfort me, nobody who’s shoulder I can cry on. Nobody to just hold me for a while. It’s not that life is horrible right now….

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The Importance of Self-Care

This post is a bit different because it deals with something that affects everybody, not just those who have lost someone. And while this topic isn’t really grief or loss-related, I think it’s especially important for grievers to practice self-care. (Without feeling selfish or guilty about it!) It’s easy to…

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Visiting the Cemetery

I don’t go to the cemetery as much as I used to. I moved to a different town and it’s a bit more out of the way for me now. But some days I feel the urge to go there, visit, reflect, and talk to my dead husband. Yes, I’m…

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