Does Your Dead Spouse Appear in Your Dreams?

Does Your Dead Spouse Appear in Your Dreams?

~~Reflecting on Year One~~ When I was newly widowed, I desperately wanted my husband to appear in my dreams. I was so alone and missed him so much. I longed for a touch or a hug from him. And I needed his guidance and advice on the many problems I…

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A Cold, Dreary, Lazy January

A Cold, Dreary, Lazy January

I haven’t felt like doing anything lately. We’ve been having some pretty cold weather, with another couple of extremely cold days on the way this coming week. Weather like that isn’t good for my mood. I get cranky and borderline depressed when I’m stuck in the house, trying to stay…

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Conflicting Thoughts and Feelings

Nothing in Grief Is Black and White

As always around the holidays, I’ve been thinking more about my late husband again. And all that reminiscing, wondering, and imagining brings conflicting thoughts and feelings. My husband has been gone for 13 years now. And I’ve had my share of failed attempts at new relationships over the years since…

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Redefining Success in Grief

Success is baby steps forward.

Grief is a long journey. How do you know when you’ve “conquered” your grief? What do you consider success when it comes to grieving? What Is Success? Success can be defined as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. And usually, it’s fairly clear-cut and obvious whether or not success…

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